They say beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. And that is true to a great extent. Whom you would consider as beautiful may not be beautiful to me. However, when it comes to the use of the tongue we all agree on what is beautiful and what is ugly. Gossiping, lying, cursing, slandering, nagging and backbiting are but to name a few acts we do not consider as attractive. And sad to say, there are many women who are beautiful in how they look but ugly in how they talk. They are simply not refined or restrained in their speech. They appear so beautiful until one hears the ugliness from their mouth. In the end, their ugly character overshadows their beautiful looks, making them unattractive. Of course, women are not alone in this. The same could be said about men. Men are probably more guilty if not equally guilty. Women are only used here to create the imagery or contrast between ugliness and beauty. Thus, this proverb applies to men even though they are not mentioned. Be attractive! sage styled garments for lady accompany with the bride
By African proverbs